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7 Steps on How to Deal with the Stress of Losing Your Job

Oh Sh*t. I’ve lost my Job? What Now? 7 Steps on How to Deal with the Stress of Losing Your Job

Two of my clients got asked to leave their jobs over the last couple of weeks. One of them had a great payout and now has the time to think about what he wants to do with his life. The other got barely enough to cover his mortgage and has a sense of urgency in finding a new “something” for or returning back to the same industry she was in before.

They both had career change as one of their objectives for coming to life coaching. Both were keen to live the “2nd Half” of life doing something that motivated them.

Now that the universe has given them a gentle nudge in that career change direction, the world of pure potential has opened up for them. From a Life& Business Coaching perspective, we are now working on making that dream come true and both have achieved some tremendous results already.

The following is some personal and client insight into what you can do to lessen those fears in these times, things you probably already know but always worth being reminded of:

7 steps you can take to deal with the stress of losing your job?

  • Immediately work out your budget – what does it cost for you to live per month?
  • From there, work out how long you can afford not to earn – this will then help you decide whether now is the time for you to pursue a career change
  • Where can you make cutbacks in your spending? some? Implement cutbacks immediately! i.e. that gym membership you never use… Put on hold…
  • Who are your mentors? Call them and seek advice
  • Go visit your Life Coach, Healer, do something that is grounding and good for you
  • Who is in your inner circle and your greater network of friends, classmates, colleagues, etc. that can help you find a job? Who of them can help you? Learn to use to use your network!
  • If you want a career change, do you have the skills already or do you need to skill up? Start looking up courses

One last insight for those dealing with change… Go visit a Playground…! Get on a swing, see-saw, climbing frame… Go nuts and bring out the child like wonder within! Have some fun at this time. A night out with you best friends is another way to let your hair down… The hangover on the morning after… Ah well… You’ll get over that too!

“Life’s a Playground, not a Prison… Live as you Truly Desire…”

Janet xx

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Midlife Crisis Starting as Early as 35 years Old

UK researchers have released a finding that the traditional midlife crisis that people tended to experience around 50 and upwards is starting in people as young as 35 years old. As a Life Coach, I personally do not find this surprising.

The research done by Relate UK say:

  • That 1 in 5 aged 35 – 44 feel lonely a lot of the time and have suffered depression,
  • 22% wish they had a better relationship with their family and the same number feel closer to their friends than to their family
  • Nearly one third think their family relationships would improve if they could reduce their working hours
  • 25% wanted more time for their family
  • 23% want more time for their friends
  • 22% have suffered depression
  • 28% have left a job because of a bad relationship with a colleague
  • 40% have been cheated on by a partner

People in this age group also work long hours and have the added stress of managing family, mortgage and other financial pressures that go along with it.

To fill in the time with family/friends gaps, the 35 to 44 year olds are prolific users of communication whether it be mobile phone calling and texting, using Skype or webcam, Facebook and Twitter to stay in touch with family and friends.

From my coaching perspective, most of my clients range between 33 to 45 years old and fit in perfectly with the above statistics.

Clients come to life or business coaching because how their life or business is right now needs to change. It isn’t working for them.

It takes courage to take action but if your desire is strong for change, you have the determination to see it through, the discipline to take action each and every day, you will see the results! I have tons of clients that have proved it.

Janet x

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Power of Positive Habits and Success

Let’s Talk about the Power of Positive Habits and Success…

One aspect of success is your habits. Habits are incredibly powerful tools for personal growth and success, yet most of walk around completely unaware of the habits we do daily (Good and Bad).

Who you are and how you behave comes from (conscious or unconscious) habits – Whether it is wealth accumulation, relationship happiness, career or business, rest and relaxation, all of these are driven by your habits or learned ways of being and doing.

Habits can drive your success or it can deter it. I work closely with my clients looking at their habits, what is working, what is not. Changing negative behaviour patterns, consciously implementing positive habits has brought major mind, body and emotional success to them with some of them attaining extraordinary results for themselves.

The good news is if they are not working for you, you can change them so long as you have the aforementioned desire, determination, discipline and action to see it though.

What is a Positive Habit?

A positive habit is simply a habit or behaviour that produces positive benefits, results, actions, outcomes, feelings and emotions you want in your life. Habits, by there nature are very powerful, due to the fact there are automatic. Imagine what is possible for you in terms of health, happiness and achievements if you took time each day to focus, visualise and take action thereafter!

Acquired and Involuntary

A habit is defined as an acquired behaviour pattern regularly followed until it has become almost involuntary. The key words here are acquired and almost involuntary.

Acquired in this case is awareness around the habit (of new or learned behaviour) you want to have and then consistent daily practice of it until it becomes involuntary. Think of learning to drive for instance. At first you were very aware of what you needed to do. 5 years later, most of us drive on autopilot! J

They say it takes 21 days to form a habit. For me I takes a bit more (I can be very rigid in my ways! J). Everyone is different though. One of my clients managed to master the ability to meditate in 10 days. Her desire was so strong, that mind and emotions change instantly.

So now that we know what positive habits are, let’s take action and start a habit that will help you have a feeling of success and achievement.

Positive Habit Suggestion – Make it a habit to Plan Your Week!

I often hear my clients say that they are unorganised (or all over the place!) and that their focus can be quite scatter. To help them overcome this feeling, I get each and every one of my clients to plan their week ahead.

Did you know that the most successful people all share the common positive habit of planning their activities? Success Masters like John Assaraf, Brian Tracey, Eban Pagan all talk to the importance of planning. The also spend time visualising their goals / tasks each and every day.

Here are some simple steps to help you start planning your week / success a positive habit:

  • Every Sunday take 15 minutes and do a To-Do List, include everything you want to achieve that week from health, exercise, visualisation / meditation, family things, work tasks, social engagements through to house chores and administration. Also, look at your life plan and see what action you need to take for that.
  • Then take those tasks/to-do’s and map them out in your week. I use Outlook Calendar for this. That way I get a reminder when I’m near my computer and a list appearing of what is next and what needs to be rescheduled if I didn’t finish something.
  • Print it out anyhow
  • Start your day by looking at what you are going to achieve for that day – this prepares you for the day of successful outcomes
  • At the end of the day, tick-off all successfully completed tasks and acknowledge all that you achieved regardless of how big or small it is
  • If you do this daily, by the end of the week, all these tasks add up and you will visually see how much you actually do each and every week.

Allow that sense of achievement to drive you for the week ahead. By accumulating this, you are laying the foundation or habit for more and more success and ultimately your GOALS!

Janet x

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